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Archive for March, 2013
Getting Your Husband to Share the Load

Marriage is a partnership.  One thing that causes a lot of tension and stress for working moms is when they feel they’re carrying most of the burden in keeping the household running smoothly.  According to a Bureau of Labor Statistics time use survey, working women spend about twice as much time as working men on household chores and care of the children.  Not surprisingly, household chore wars are a common source of friction.  In a recent BabyCenter survey, 63% of couples with children at home argue over cleaning.

How can a working mother get her husband to do his fair share?  Here are seven steps to get your husband’s cooperation to pull his weight.

Let him know how you feel. Instead of quietly stewing with resentment or complaining to your girlfriends, tell your husband you need more help at home.  Rather than nagging, take a more friendly approach.  Tell your husband that you’ve been feeling overwhelmed and that you really need and appreciate his help.

Let him know what’s in it for him. Tell your husband that if you get more help around the house, you’ll feel less overwhelmed, tired and irritable.  That means you’ll have more time and energy to invest in your marriage.  In fact, marital researcher, John Gottman has found that men who do more housework have better six lives and happier marriages.

Create a chores chart. Make a list of all the chores that need to be done.  Review the list together and designate who is in charge of what.  By deciding on the chores together, you’ll both be more likely to follow through.

Let him choose the tasks he likes. Does he love to cook but hates doing the dishes?  Suggest he take charge of the grocery shopping and cooking three or four nights a week.  If he enjoys the task, it won’t feel like a chore to him, and he’ll stick with it.

Do chores together. You could wash the dishes and your husband can put them in the dishwasher.  Or you could fold clothes together.  This gives the added benefit of time to talk and enjoy each other’s company.

Don’t be a control freak. By all means, try not to criticize!  One of the reasons men don’t help around the house as much as we’d like is that we can make them feel like they can’t do anything right.  If the laundry isn’t folded perfectly – who cares?  Realize that his standards may never meet yours.  Then decide what you can live with.

Give praise! Most importantly, let your husband know how much you appreciate his help.  A heaping of praise and admiration goes a long way toward a happy marriage.

By following these steps, you can have a neater, cleaner, and happier home!

 
10 Best Employers in America

It’s possible to love your job, have schedule flexibility and low stress… and get a good salary too!  You just have to work for the right company.

The first annual list of the best employers in America by PayScale and Business Insider evaluates companies by both pay and happiness.

Companies in the 2012 Fortune 500 were ranked using PayScale’s salary and survey database.  Happiness was measured through questions about satisfaction, feelings of meaningfulness, stress, and schedule flexibility.  Pay was measured by looking at median pay after five years and pay compared to industry peers.

Here’s the list of top 10 employers.

1. Celgene Corporation

Headquartered in Summit, N.J., this biotechnology company has more than 4,500 employees.

Employees report very high rates of satisfaction (91%), meaningfulness (86%), and flexibility (91%); and high rates of relaxation (41%).

Median pay is very high at $118,000 after five years, and high compared to industry peers.

2. Google, Inc.

Headquartered in Mountain View, Calif., this internet company has more than 30,000 employees.

Employees report very high rates of satisfaction (81%); high rates of relaxation (44%), meaningfulness (61%), and flexibility (81%).

Median pay is very high at $119,000 after five years, and very high compared to industry peers.

3. Huntsman Corporation

Headquartered in Salt Lake City, Utah, this chemicals company has approximately 12,000 employees.

Employees report very high rates of relaxation (50%) and flexibility (94%); high rates of meaningfulness (63%) and satisfaction (75%).

Median pay is very high at $95,600 after five years, and high compared to industry peers.

4. Qualcomm, Inc.

Headquartered in San Diego, Calif., this telecommunications company has over 20,000 employees.

Employees report very high rates of satisfaction (81%) and flexibility (92%); high rates of meaningfulness (65%); and average relaxation (37%).

Median pay is very high at $106,000 after five years, and very high compared to industry peers.

5. Biogen Idec, Inc.

Headquartered in Weston, Mass., this biotechnology company has 4,850 employees.

Employees report very high rates of satisfaction (83%), flexibility (89%), and meaningfulness (89%); and average relaxation (33%).

Median pay is very high at $97,800 after five years, and very high compared to industry peers.

6. MasterCard Worldwide

Headquartered in Purchase, N.Y., this financial services company has 6,700 employees.

Employees report very high rates of satisfaction (81%), relaxation (63%) and flexibility (85%); and average rates of meaningfulness (54%).

Median pay is very high at $103,000 after five years, and high compared to industry peers.

7. Chevron Corporation

Headquartered in San Ramon, Calif., this oil and gas company has 62,000 employees.

Employees report very high rates of satisfaction (81%) and relaxation (47%); and high rates of flexibility (80%) and meaningfulness (58%).

Median pay is very high at $102,000 after five years, and high compared to industry peers.

8. Yahoo! Inc.

Headquartered in Sunnyvale, Calif., this internet company has 14,100 employees.

Employees report very high rates of relaxation (46%) and flexibility (88%); high rates of satisfaction (81%); and average rates of meaningfulness (55%).

Median pay is very high at $120,000 after five years, and high compared to industry peers.

9. E.I. DuPont De Nemours & Co.

Headquartered in Wilmington, Del., this chemicals company has 70,000 employees.

Employees report very high rates of flexibility (84%) and satisfaction (84%); and high rates of relaxation (43%) and meaningfulness (67%).

Median pay is high at $80,700 after five years, and high compared to industry peers.

10. Williams Companies, Inc.

Headquartered in Tulsa, Okla., this oil and gas company has 3,913 employees.

Employees report very high rates of relaxation (54%) and satisfaction (80%); and high rates of flexibility (79%) and meaningfulness (65%).

Median pay is high at $79,000 after five years, and very high compared to industry peers.

To see the complete list of 50 companies, click here.