As busy working women, we oftentimes put ourselves last. We were brought up to be nurturers and caregivers, so this is what we do best. However, sometimes we are so focused on meeting the needs of others, that we don’t take good care of ourselves – especially when it comes to getting enough rest or exercise.
The airlines realize the importance of taking care of oneself. At the beginning of each flight, they go through a safety spiel in which they tell us to put on an oxygen mask in the unlikely event of an emergency. Then they go on to say, “If you are traveling with a small child, then put your mask on first and then assist your child”. The point is that we need to take care of ourselves in order to take care of others.
Taking good care of yourself is critical to your emotional and physical health. If you’re not used to putting yourself first, how can you do so? Here are five tips.
1. Put yourself on the priority list. When you write your “to do” list, be sure to put yourself on the list. Write down something you can do just for yourself. Maybe it’s going for a short walk, listening to music, or reading a book.
2. Schedule it in your calendar. Not only put yourself on the list, but also schedule time on your calendar to do the things you want to do – like shopping or taking a Zumba class. Treat it like a meeting, so you can protect your “me” time.
3. Do it early. Things can get in the way of your personal time, so schedule it early before the complications of the day sidetrack you.
4. Find a partner. Whether it’s having a workout partner, meeting a friend for coffee, or attending a class, you’re more likely to make it happen if you’re accountable to someone else.
5. Go on a mini-retreat. Every once in awhile we need more extended time to ourselves. Take time out once every few months to spend a day at the beach, in the mountains, at a day spa — or wherever will rejuvenate you.
By practicing these tips, you’ll be able to be the best you can be in your various roles – as a wife, mother, friend, and worker.
Relationships are important to a healthy balance. We all need other people in our lives. Spending time with family or friends can help rejuvenate us. We also need people we can depend upon in times of need – to provide emotional support, comfort, or a helping hand.
Sometimes we get so busy that we neglect important relationships – with our spouse, children, extended family, or friends. It’s easy to take our spouse for granted, and then eventually drift apart. We need to invest time to nurture our marriage. When we’re busy, we often don’t make time for friends, and our friendships fade over time. How can we make these important relationships a priority? Here are ten tips to help you maintain relationships over time.
- Schedule a date night with your spouse. Go out for coffee, dinner, a movie, etc. or spend a quiet, intimate evening at home and send the kids to a sitter’s house.
- Attend a marriage retreat together once a year.
- Get away for an overnight stay every few months. Time away from work, home, and kids will do wonders for your marriage.
- Use Skype to connect with family members who live far away. It’s the next best thing to being there.
- Use Facebook or e-mail to catch up with extended family and friends.
- Schedule a lunch date with a friend at least once a month.
- Schedule a game night or potluck dinner once a month with friends and neighbors.
- Call on your cell phone and catch up with a friend. You can even talk while you’re folding laundry or driving on the freeway.
- Keep a record of birthdays of family members and close friends. Then at the beginning of each month, buy birthday cards for everyone with a birthday that month.
- Develop a good support network of people (family, friends, neighbors) with whom you can exchange favors.
Do you have any tips to add to this list? Please share with other readers what you do to maintain important relationships?